Have a Plan

have a plan

“The commander who gets many scores during the calculations in the temple before the war will have more liklihood of winning.”
~Sun Tzu

Too often, planning is simply a mental process. An idea that is only in our head as we simply look at the past and adjust for the future. Sailors call this steering by the wake.”

In war, generals say that no plan survives the first battle. The same is often true in life – outside events influence the success of our plan. Do not let this possibility of disruption defer you from planning. Without a plan of action, you may never get started. Simply consider plans as a basis for change. President Harry Truman said,

“When I make a dumb decision, I go on and make another dumb decision.”

Put Your Plan In Writing.

have a plan A plan exists only when it is a written document. If you do not have a plan in writing you may have a dream, a vision- or perhaps a nightmare. You do not have a plan unless it is a written document.

Kipling wrote:

I have six honest serving men.

They taught me all I knew.

Their names were what and where and when,

And why, and how, and who

Answer the questions posed by the six honest serving men and you have a simple format for putting your plan into writing.

Why am I taking this course of action?

What am I going to achieve?

How am I going to proceed?

When am I going to do it?

Where will it happen? 

Who is going to be involved?

It is so easy to answer these questions in our head and so much better to put the answers in writing. Tom Monahagan, founder of Domino’s Pizza, says,

Writing is the key to my system. I carry a writing pad with me everywhere I go. All my thoughts, my plans, my dreams and my analyses of problems are written down in my pad. I sometimes have several pads going at once for different kinds of thoughts. I have accumulated dozens of these pads- although I never look at them again. What’s important is the thinking that goes into the writing, not the words that wind up on paper. I set long-range goals, annual goals, monthly, weekly and daily goals. The daily goals take the form of to-do lists.  The long-range goals are dream sheets. 

Instead of Monahagan’s yellow pad, I prefer an attractive bound journal that can be purchased for $10 at a bookstore. Others prefer notebook planners with calender pages. Whatever you use, a single place to record everything is the kind of organization that will make you more productive.

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Double Tragedy

Have you ever had a terrible dream and then wake up in the middle of the night to go through the dream? You try to remember but things don’t go well and so you ask God to let you fall asleep and have the same dream once again. 

“Ask and you shall receive…”  

I believe you are familiar with the verse. 

Well, you immediately fall asleep and start dreaming once again. And now you can be able to see things clearly. You are seated in one of those comfortable benches beside a swimming pool in one of the fancy hotels in the world. You have come here on a vacation. You always go on vacations in the month of September every year. Good sunshine and fresh air are all you need. You have done a few rounds of swimming and now you are lying on the poolside. Enjoying the sun. And the view. 

Holiday

It’s 10 in the morning. People begin to leave. Beautiful ladies in bikinis say hello to you as they walk back to the changing rooms. Being that you are on a vacation, you are in no hurry.  You continue to enjoy the sunshine. You are not alone. A bunch of other people are still swimming. Some are also enjoying the sunshine. You feel confident. And then you thank God for everything.  
Suddenly, something happens. There are screams. People are shouting. You get up quickly, remove your sunglasses and run to where the screaming is coming from.  Someone is drowning.  He is at the deep end of the pool. And no one is willing or brave enough to dive in to help him. People are just staring. Some taking pictures and videos.  Others crying for help. So what do you do? You man up and jump into the pool. You dive deep and luckily, you get hold of him. And then you bring him to the surface so that you may perform a CPR on him. On reaching the surface, you wipe water off your face and to your surprise, the man you have just saved is you. You were the one drowning.  No one  one was willing to help you. No one was willing to jump into the water to save your life. No one. They just stood there and watched you struggle for your life. But you saved yourself. 

That’s how life sometimes is. We go through a lot of things. From financial to domestic issues. Maybe you are struggling to pay your own tuition fees. Or, you are unhappy with your current job because of the daily frustrations. Your boss thinks that you are a nobody. Well, I have news for you. No one is gonna save you. Man up and jump into the pool and pull yourself out. You have you. Don’t let them take pictures of you drowning. Let them take pictures of you saving yourself. You are your own hero. You are your own superman.  You are your own superwoman. Save yourself.  

The Suicide Note.

He has read stories. Stories about why people write. And in one way or another, he feels related to some of them. He writes too. A couple of months ago, he wrote an article about why he writes. He said things. He outlined reasons. Reasons why he writes. He even stated how he started to write. How he began sharing his thoughts with the world. There is one more reason why he writes. Something that he doesn’t consider a problem. Because to him it, isn’t a problem. Well, that depends on how you’ll treat it.

The suicide note: Dated dd/mm/yyyy

“I write because I feel lonely. Most of the time. I am terrible at keeping friends.  I am a terrible person. Right now if you approach me and ask me to mention three guys who would show up every day for a few drinks after work, trust me, there is none. I’m a terrible person. 
 
I doubt if I had friends back in high school.  Because I don’t remember doing stupid things like sneaking into the girls’ dormitory, or doing drugs or having my ass suspended or kicked out of school because of what I did in a company of my “friends”. I don’t have that history. I don’t remember sending someone with a perfumed letter to some girl from some school and then waiting so eagerly for the reply later in the evening.  I don’t remember. 
 
What do they call people like me? Sociopath, right? Why do I find it so hard to relate with other people? I don’t have someone to share my experiences with. I’m a man and I know that I’m expected by the society to be strong at all times but damn it, I got feelings too. I stopped talking with the few I thought were my friends because: one of them thinks that I screwed his girlfriend, the other one just stopped talking to me because I couldn’t help him financially, which I couldn’t at that time, and the other one has all over sudden become so fancy to an extent that I find it so hard to even call him on phone. 
 
My life is a mess. And today, as I write this journal, I want to let everyone know that I’m really tired. I’m tired of being lonely. I’m tired of faking relationships. I’m tired of all these. And maybe no one is gonna take me seriously but please, try to help me out. I know it’s inappropriate to come to you with my social life issues but this is where there are good doctors, good psychiatrist. Help a friend. Help me. That’s my humble request.”
 
End of the note.
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“And he suddenly knew that if he killed himself, he would die. Maybe not immediately, maybe not with the same blinding rush of pain, but it would happen. You couldn’t live for very long without a heart.”
Jodi Picoult
 What I have come to realize is that people go through a lot. Some bad, most of them cruel. We’ve witnessed suicide cases. And most of the time, people commit suicide because of loneliness. No one to talk to. No one to comfort them. No one to help them carry the heavy burden. And these people ask for help in different ways. No one actually listens to them. Just the other day Chester, one of the Linkin Park’s band member committed suicide. And before his death, he actually talked about it in a radio interview. And the journalist laughed about it. Maybe he thought it was one of his jokes.
These people, before committing suicide, try to tell us that things are not okay. Everyday. But we choose not to listen. If I for example say today that I want to kill myself, would you take me seriously? Of course not. “People have their own issues. Issues bigger than yours.” That is what they would say. “You think killing yourself will help solve any of your problems?”  Another would ask.
A suicidal person may not ask for help, but that doesn’t mean that help isn’t wanted. People who take their lives don’t want to die—they just want to stop hurting. Suicide prevention starts with recognizing the warning signs and taking them seriously. If you think a friend or family member is considering suicide, you might be afraid to bring up the subject. But talking openly about suicidal thoughts and feelings can save a life. Let us save a life.

Web Development

Guessing from the title of this post, I believe you already know what I want to talk about. Yes. You are right. Web Development. And being a blogger, I’m certain you know what it is, even if it’s a limited information. 

You see, most of the bloggers these days are lucky. You read someone else’s blog and then at the end, you’ll seee an appealing statement “blog at WordPress.” And then you go ahead and set up an account. Publish your first post and boom! your blogging life begins. No stress at all in designing a webite. If you are that kind of person, don’t be embarrassed because you are not alone. 

Cool. Back to web development. In this blog post, I will talk about the following areas:

  1. What Web development is.
  2. Who a web developer is.
  3. How to become a developer and
  4. How to make money using the website development skills. 

Beautiful areas to talk about, right? Well, without further or do, let’s get to business.

1. What is Web development?

 Web development broadly refers to the tasks associated with developing websites for hosting via intranet or internet. The web development process includes web design, web content development, client-side/server-side scripting and network security configuration, among other tasks.

Haha. That must have been so hard to understand. I didn’t either. I actually got this definition from one of the books I once read about web. So then, What is Web development? My understanding of Web development is that it is the coding or programming that enables website functionality, per the owner’s requirements. It mainly deals with the non-design aspect of building websites, which includes coding and writing markup. Web development ranges from creating plain text pages to complex web-based applications, social network applications and electronic business applications.

The web development hierarchy is as follows:

  • Client-side coding
  • Server-side coding
  • Database technology

Client-side coding involves the use of Markup languages like, HTML, CSS, JAVASCRIPT and jQuery. Ouch! Feel free to ask uncle Google about the meaning of these terms. 

For the server side, PHP is the coding language that matters here. PHP (recursive acronym for PHP : Hypertext Preprocessor) is a widely-used open source general-purpose scripting language that is especially suited for web development and can be embedded into HTML.

My favourite for the database technology is mySQL. This is where you get to store your users passwords and other information. Web hosting packages come with this product. 

Also, to make your website more attractive and responsive, bootstrap is your thing. The reason why I’m leaving trails of links behind is to help you get sufficient information about bootsrap.

2. A web Developer.

  A professional who does all these is called a web developer.  And in the next section, I’m going to teach you how to become one.

3. How to become a Web Developer.

 I spent four years at the University studying Physics and about one year to study Web Development. My point is, with dedication and hardwork, you can become a web developer in less than six months. So, where do you start from? Simple. Today, there are many schools offering classes on web development, some for free, some for a few bucks. The good thing is, most of the schools are available online. And by the way, learning the web never stops. New ideas every day. Here are some of the schools I can recommend for you:

I owe my coding skills to these schools. You’ll get amazing study materials from these schools. And if you want to perfect your coding skills, buy a course from Udemy. And specifically go for Complete Web Developer Course, taught by Rob PercivalRob goes through alot in this course which is really nice. I think he is clear and informative and seem to know what he is talking about. Rob also seems quite active in the comments etc which is nice.(havent really needed to contact him myself but can see him answering comments). There are many “challenges” to go through what you just learned which is also great. Really makes you think back to what you learned. 

4. How to make money with your website development skills.


The most amazing thing is being able to use your skills to get money. Legitimate money. As a web developer, new in the field, build your own website, buy a domain name and have it hosted. Try to get a few gigs from the freelancers sites. And every time you complete a task for a client, ask them if you could add their projects to your portfolio. Build websites for your friends at a cheaper price. Sharpen your skills. And finally, get involved with mega projects.  You are a web developer for goodness sake, make money with your skills. Also, don’t be afraid to teach people how to develop websites for some extra cash. 

Bonus Section.

Apart from building a website, there are other things that make a website great. One of them is a beautiful design. Here, it all depends on your creativity and your ability to put down your imagination into something substantive. The colors, fonts, menus, the forms, tables and the look of the website as a whole. Some claim to teach this but to me, I think it all depends on one’s level of creativity. 
Another thing is the SEO (Search Engine Optimization). Search engine optimization ( SEO ) is the process of affecting the visibility of a website or a web page in a web search engine’s unpaid results—often referred to as “natural”, “organic”, or “earned” results. It is the umbrella term for all the methods you can use to ensure the visibility of your website and its content on search engine results pages (SERPs). There are lots of ways of achieving this, ranging from how you write your posts to how you write your codes for the website. 
Finally, with the web development skills, you can be able to redesign your WordPress site. A good thing, right. Or even set up a new one. Why am I even telling you this? Ow! Just remembered, I’m telling you this so that you I can help you redesign yours. I know you are tired of seeing a boring platform everyday and you’d like to make a difference. Well I am your guy. Also, if you’d like to build a new website or set up a new WordPress blog, I’m still your guy. Just drop me a line here and I will get back to you. 

Well, I think the information I have shared with you is enough to get you started. Please don’t be afraid to start this journey. You never know. You might be the next Mark Zuckerberg. 

All the best. Happy coding. 

To The One I Love.

Hi love, 

It is me. Yes, it’s me. The boy who is crazy about you. The one that thinks about you every single day. It is me honey. The one who is madly in love with you. I am the one writing you this letter. I know you might wanna know why I had to write you this letter on a public-online site and not on a private system like email or through old fashioned method, the physical mailing system. Well, I also wanted to let my internet-made friends know about what you have done to me. 

The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That’s what I hope to give you forever.

I am writing you this letter to tell you how much you mean to me, and to thank you for coming into my life. You are something I never thought could exist for me. You are the best thing that has ever happened in my life, and I don’t regret telling you how I feel.
From the very first time I talked to you, I knew there was something so “true” in this person sitting in front of me that I didn’t have to act like a higher class version of me. I could be the true me.

Others might look at our relationship and laugh at me to be so shallow when I admit 2 times of face-to-face meetings in 3 months are the evidence of real love. But they know nothing. They know nothing about my past. They know nothing about my journey of finding true love that in the end turned out to be the game of playing catch. So they know nothing about how I feel about you, about how you make me feel. They totally know nothing. 

I know this may not get to depict everything I want to tell you, but I hope this will unveil to you the little things I want to thank you for.

I am clearly charmed by you, and even for five wonderful years you continue to sweep me off my feet and remind me how incredible life has become since you’ve become part of it.

I want you to know that I continuously feel blessed and that I have nothing else to ask for, but for you to continue to be healthy because I would love to spend all my years with you.

I want to thank you for telling me I am wrong when I need it the most, for reminding me that I am just human, and for allowing me to make my own mistakes and letting me learn from them.

Thank you for allowing me to be myself. Despite of the years we’ve been together, you’ve never tried to dictate on how I should live, nor did you try to mold me into someone else.

Thank you for appreciating who I am and for respecting me throughout this relationship.

Thank you for letting me grow and for letting me experience life. You have taught me how to value ourselves in the process of learning to appreciate each other. Thank you.

Thank you for loving me despite all my imperfections, despite the little quirks you hate about me, despite the smell of my fart, despite my morning breath, despite the fact that I talk too much.

Thank you for sharing your time with me, for allowing me to see you at your most vulnerable, for letting me see you cry, and for giving me the chance to listen to your thoughts.

Thank you for being my strength, for being my light, and most of all for being my rock.

You are my obelisk. 

I want you to know that there are countless of reasons why I should thank you. But most of all, I want to thank you for loving me unconditionally, for loving me continuously, even during bad days.

I want you to know that I love you as much as you do, through all the days, the challenges, and the ups and downs.

I love you. 


Yours in love. 

My First

My first… such a powerful phrase. We all have our firsts. And in most cases, we tend to remember our firsts. Like your first kiss, your first car, your first job, your first girl/boyfriend, your first this and your first that.

I like talking about my firsts. I don’t know about you but I find it amazing talking about my firsts. 

Whenever a thing is done for the first time, it releases a little demon.

Today, I’m going to talk about my first blog post. Yes, my first blog post. It was way back in April 4th 2016, a few days after the fools’ day (April 1st). I was indoors doing what I used to do those days (I explained that in the post I Write…) when I saw an opportunity to write something about the day.  And that is how I came up with my first story, wrote it and boom, published it.  

Take a look:

APRIL FOOLS’ DAY JOKE? NO.

Ngrrrrrrrrr…. Ngrrrrrrrrr…. Ngrrrrrrrrr. My phone rings. It’s 5.22 in the morning. I’m not used to receiving calls this early in the morning. I only get to receive calls like this once in a while. Like when bae wants to wish me success in my exams or…Continue reading.