Rising Above

Success is not just the crowning moment, the spiking of the ball in the end zone or the raising of the flag on the summit. It is the whole process of reaching for a goal and, sometimes, it begins with failure. ”

—Erik Weihenmayer


Web Development

Guessing from the title of this post, I believe you already know what I want to talk about. Yes. You are right. Web Development. And being a blogger, I’m certain you know what it is, even if it’s a limited information. 

You see, most of the bloggers these days are lucky. You read someone else’s blog and then at the end, you’ll seee an appealing statement “blog at WordPress.” And then you go ahead and set up an account. Publish your first post and boom! your blogging life begins. No stress at all in designing a webite. If you are that kind of person, don’t be embarrassed because you are not alone. 

Cool. Back to web development. In this blog post, I will talk about the following areas:

  1. What Web development is.
  2. Who a web developer is.
  3. How to become a developer and
  4. How to make money using the website development skills. 

Beautiful areas to talk about, right? Well, without further or do, let’s get to business.

1. What is Web development?

 Web development broadly refers to the tasks associated with developing websites for hosting via intranet or internet. The web development process includes web design, web content development, client-side/server-side scripting and network security configuration, among other tasks.

Haha. That must have been so hard to understand. I didn’t either. I actually got this definition from one of the books I once read about web. So then, What is Web development? My understanding of Web development is that it is the coding or programming that enables website functionality, per the owner’s requirements. It mainly deals with the non-design aspect of building websites, which includes coding and writing markup. Web development ranges from creating plain text pages to complex web-based applications, social network applications and electronic business applications.

The web development hierarchy is as follows:

  • Client-side coding
  • Server-side coding
  • Database technology

Client-side coding involves the use of Markup languages like, HTML, CSS, JAVASCRIPT and jQuery. Ouch! Feel free to ask uncle Google about the meaning of these terms. 

For the server side, PHP is the coding language that matters here. PHP (recursive acronym for PHP : Hypertext Preprocessor) is a widely-used open source general-purpose scripting language that is especially suited for web development and can be embedded into HTML.

My favourite for the database technology is mySQL. This is where you get to store your users passwords and other information. Web hosting packages come with this product. 

Also, to make your website more attractive and responsive, bootstrap is your thing. The reason why I’m leaving trails of links behind is to help you get sufficient information about bootsrap.

2. A web Developer.

  A professional who does all these is called a web developer.  And in the next section, I’m going to teach you how to become one.

3. How to become a Web Developer.

 I spent four years at the University studying Physics and about one year to study Web Development. My point is, with dedication and hardwork, you can become a web developer in less than six months. So, where do you start from? Simple. Today, there are many schools offering classes on web development, some for free, some for a few bucks. The good thing is, most of the schools are available online. And by the way, learning the web never stops. New ideas every day. Here are some of the schools I can recommend for you:

I owe my coding skills to these schools. You’ll get amazing study materials from these schools. And if you want to perfect your coding skills, buy a course from Udemy. And specifically go for Complete Web Developer Course, taught by Rob PercivalRob goes through alot in this course which is really nice. I think he is clear and informative and seem to know what he is talking about. Rob also seems quite active in the comments etc which is nice.(havent really needed to contact him myself but can see him answering comments). There are many “challenges” to go through what you just learned which is also great. Really makes you think back to what you learned. 

4. How to make money with your website development skills.

The most amazing thing is being able to use your skills to get money. Legitimate money. As a web developer, new in the field, build your own website, buy a domain name and have it hosted. Try to get a few gigs from the freelancers sites. And every time you complete a task for a client, ask them if you could add their projects to your portfolio. Build websites for your friends at a cheaper price. Sharpen your skills. And finally, get involved with mega projects.  You are a web developer for goodness sake, make money with your skills. Also, don’t be afraid to teach people how to develop websites for some extra cash. 

Bonus Section.

Apart from building a website, there are other things that make a website great. One of them is a beautiful design. Here, it all depends on your creativity and your ability to put down your imagination into something substantive. The colors, fonts, menus, the forms, tables and the look of the website as a whole. Some claim to teach this but to me, I think it all depends on one’s level of creativity. 
Another thing is the SEO (Search Engine Optimization). Search engine optimization ( SEO ) is the process of affecting the visibility of a website or a web page in a web search engine’s unpaid results—often referred to as “natural”, “organic”, or “earned” results. It is the umbrella term for all the methods you can use to ensure the visibility of your website and its content on search engine results pages (SERPs). There are lots of ways of achieving this, ranging from how you write your posts to how you write your codes for the website. 
Finally, with the web development skills, you can be able to redesign your WordPress site. A good thing, right. Or even set up a new one. Why am I even telling you this? Ow! Just remembered, I’m telling you this so that you I can help you redesign yours. I know you are tired of seeing a boring platform everyday and you’d like to make a difference. Well I am your guy. Also, if you’d like to build a new website or set up a new WordPress blog, I’m still your guy. Just drop me a line here and I will get back to you. 

Well, I think the information I have shared with you is enough to get you started. Please don’t be afraid to start this journey. You never know. You might be the next Mark Zuckerberg. 

All the best. Happy coding. 

Last Coffee Date.

We had been dating for 11 full months. This last date was to be a celebration of our first anniversary. 

We had our favourite coffee shop. One that we had settled on after the first seven coffee dates at four different coffee shops. The first one was too expensive for us. The second one….poor sanitation. The third one’s coffee tasted like shit. The fourth one. Well, the fourth one…my lunatic ex worked there. 

Every Saturday evenings were meant for coffee dates. No matter what, we had to show up for the date. Even if we had had arguments over the week. It was actually the best way to redeem ourselves. To forgive ourselves. To kiss our differences away. 

Today was to be different being that it was to mark our 12th month of love. I proposed that we had our date at the first Coffee shop. Yes. The expensive one. And you refused. You said you had fallen in love with the other one.

Today you were early. Unusual. And you were wearing the dress I bought you as a present on your birthday. Sweet. Too bad I had already decided this would be the last Coffee date. 

To The One I Love.

Hi love, 

It is me. Yes, it’s me. The boy who is crazy about you. The one that thinks about you every single day. It is me honey. The one who is madly in love with you. I am the one writing you this letter. I know you might wanna know why I had to write you this letter on a public-online site and not on a private system like email or through old fashioned method, the physical mailing system. Well, I also wanted to let my internet-made friends know about what you have done to me. 

The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That’s what I hope to give you forever.

I am writing you this letter to tell you how much you mean to me, and to thank you for coming into my life. You are something I never thought could exist for me. You are the best thing that has ever happened in my life, and I don’t regret telling you how I feel.
From the very first time I talked to you, I knew there was something so “true” in this person sitting in front of me that I didn’t have to act like a higher class version of me. I could be the true me.

Others might look at our relationship and laugh at me to be so shallow when I admit 2 times of face-to-face meetings in 3 months are the evidence of real love. But they know nothing. They know nothing about my past. They know nothing about my journey of finding true love that in the end turned out to be the game of playing catch. So they know nothing about how I feel about you, about how you make me feel. They totally know nothing. 

I know this may not get to depict everything I want to tell you, but I hope this will unveil to you the little things I want to thank you for.

I am clearly charmed by you, and even for five wonderful years you continue to sweep me off my feet and remind me how incredible life has become since you’ve become part of it.

I want you to know that I continuously feel blessed and that I have nothing else to ask for, but for you to continue to be healthy because I would love to spend all my years with you.

I want to thank you for telling me I am wrong when I need it the most, for reminding me that I am just human, and for allowing me to make my own mistakes and letting me learn from them.

Thank you for allowing me to be myself. Despite of the years we’ve been together, you’ve never tried to dictate on how I should live, nor did you try to mold me into someone else.

Thank you for appreciating who I am and for respecting me throughout this relationship.

Thank you for letting me grow and for letting me experience life. You have taught me how to value ourselves in the process of learning to appreciate each other. Thank you.

Thank you for loving me despite all my imperfections, despite the little quirks you hate about me, despite the smell of my fart, despite my morning breath, despite the fact that I talk too much.

Thank you for sharing your time with me, for allowing me to see you at your most vulnerable, for letting me see you cry, and for giving me the chance to listen to your thoughts.

Thank you for being my strength, for being my light, and most of all for being my rock.

You are my obelisk. 

I want you to know that there are countless of reasons why I should thank you. But most of all, I want to thank you for loving me unconditionally, for loving me continuously, even during bad days.

I want you to know that I love you as much as you do, through all the days, the challenges, and the ups and downs.

I love you. 

Yours in love. 

My First

My first… such a powerful phrase. We all have our firsts. And in most cases, we tend to remember our firsts. Like your first kiss, your first car, your first job, your first girl/boyfriend, your first this and your first that.

I like talking about my firsts. I don’t know about you but I find it amazing talking about my firsts. 

Whenever a thing is done for the first time, it releases a little demon.

Today, I’m going to talk about my first blog post. Yes, my first blog post. It was way back in April 4th 2016, a few days after the fools’ day (April 1st). I was indoors doing what I used to do those days (I explained that in the post I Write…) when I saw an opportunity to write something about the day.  And that is how I came up with my first story, wrote it and boom, published it.  

Take a look:


Ngrrrrrrrrr…. Ngrrrrrrrrr…. Ngrrrrrrrrr. My phone rings. It’s 5.22 in the morning. I’m not used to receiving calls this early in the morning. I only get to receive calls like this once in a while. Like when bae wants to wish me success in my exams or…Continue reading.

Life & Happiness. 

Life, Happiness, Morning

Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain… To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices – today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it.
~Kevyn Aucoin


I posted this article about one year ago. I think every Kenyan should read this. Again. I welcome suggestions, comments, recommendations and criticisms as well.

(We are all taught what is known, but we rarely learn about what is not known, and we almost never know about the knowable.)

Imagine I had to stop what I was doing to start working on this article.

I had to stop watching my favorite TV show, WWE, switch off the television and start writing this article.

I know you are busy and I’m not going to ask you to take a minute…Continue reading

Sex & Music: Reasons Why You Should Listen To Music During Sex. 

“If music be the food of love, play on,Give me excess of it; that surfeiting,The appetite may sicken, and so die.” -William Shakespeare

It’s a classic agitation in the domain of divine creation versus evolution, of the chicken versus the egg, of almond butter versus peanut butter: Should you listen to music while having sex or not?

I’m certain this question has bewildered humans for decades. I know that “back in the day,” awkwardly fidgeting with a cumbersome record player before getting nasty was inconvenient, so most people just screwed in sad, sad silence. 

But now, all we have to do is click open iTunes or Spotify or any music application, press the play button, and boom: Marvin Gaye can join you for some sweet lovemaking.

I think a lot of people listen to music while having sex. For me, a good sex playlist has been an essential accessory in the bedroom and has only increased any and all physical sensations and emotional undertones.

The truth is that most people find playing music while having sex kind of weird, or never even think to prioritize it as an integral part of the experience in the first place. Other people usually want to try, but never get the chance to actually turn some music on before starting.

Well, everyone should listen to music while having sex. And not just because everyone loves music, but because there are actual psychological benefits, including giving you the machines to be your ultimate best in the bedroom.

Here are some of the reasons why you should listen to some good music while having sex:
Researchers have found that listening to music stimulates the release of dopamine, the “feel good” chemical in our brains that also gets released when we reward ourselves with food, sleep and, of course, sex.

Another study found that listening to certain kinds of stimulating music increases our signs of arousal, including our heart rate, breathing rate and skin conductance.

It looks like you can maximize your feel-good chemical release by listening to music while having sex — that is, by engaging in two major activities that cause dopamine release at the same time . What could be more stimulating than that?

Researchers discovered that listening to music helps us narrow our attention to the physical activity task at hand, which means we are distracted from any sensations of discomfort that may arise from fatigue while exercising.

Try “Pony” by Ginuwine while f*cking in a car.

And when we’re able to focus solely on our movements because we are sufficiently distracted from feeling tired and achey, the duration and intensity of our work out may also increase, which will certainly improve our mood.

So, what does all of this mean when it comes to sex? As most of us know, sex can be as exhausting as working out. Like a great session in the gym, a great sex session pushes you to your physical limits, tests your endurance and makes you sweat profusely.
It only makes sense, then, that listening to music while having sex has the same benefits as listening to music while engaging in any other kind of physical activity.

Cranking the tunes during sex can help you focus on your moves and distract you from negative thoughts or feelings (whether that’s fatigue, stress or anything else) that might prevent you from reaching your full potential in bed.

You’ll last longer, feel less tired and, because of how focused you are on the actual act, be hyperaware of every physical sensation.

Even Spotify thinks listening to music while having sex is important — so important, in fact, that they conducted a study in 2012 to learn what kinds of music we’re listening to while we get freaky.

Led by music psychologist Daniel Mullensiefen, the study asked 2,000 people in the UK between the ages of 18 and 91 their favorite songs to have sex to. Here are the top 10 results:

1. “She’s Like The Wind” by Patrick Swayze

2. “Sexual Healing” by Marvin Gaye

3. “Boléro” by London Symphony Orchestra

4. “Take My Breath Away” by Berlin

5. “You See The Trouble With Me” by Barry White

6. “Let’s Get It On” by Marvin Gaye

7. “Unchained Melody” by Righteous Brothers

8. “My Heart Will Go On” by Celine Dion

9. “Je T’aime” by Serge Gainsbourg

10. “I Will Always Love You” by Whitney Houston

I don’t know about you, but this science-backed playlist seems way too heavy on the mushy side, so I’d like to offer my own version of this playlist, which consists of more sultry voices cooing against deep, unhurried basses — if you’re into that.

“Melody” by Serge Gainsbourg

Genre: rock 

Play it for: slow, intense sex.

2. “Sadeness” by Enigma

Genre: ambient

Play it for: rainy day sex.

3. Underworld Soundtrack

Genre: Rock

Play it for: Marathon lovemaking

4. “Pony” by Ginuwine

Genre: R&B

Play it for: Sex in a car

5. “Doin’ It” by LL Cool J

Genre: Hip Hop

Play it for: Loud and nasty lovemaking

6. “Lock It” by Rare Essence

Genre: Funk

Play it for: A hot quickie

7. “Colorblind” by Counting Crows

Genre: Rock

Play it for: Soulmate sex

8. “Wicked Games” by The Weeknd

Genre: R&B

Play it for: Hotel room sex

9. “No Ordinary Love” by Sade

Genre: Smooth Jazz

Play it for: Romantic sex

10. “Skin” by Rihanna

Genre: R&B

Play it for: Fun and playful sex

Huhu. You can feel free to add more to the list. 

Happy f*cking.